I love my wife very much and have learnt a lot over the last 6 years of marriage.  There’s an awful lot we still have to learn, but we also really value marriage and so believe in helping others with their marriages.

This is an illustration that I played around with today.  Which I found useful.

Marriage is like building a house.  You begin with foundations, which need to be solid. If there’s cracks in the foundation then in time cracks will also appear in the walls.

Whilst you’re building the walls rain can still get in through the roof, even when the roof is on you need to turn it into somewhere you can dwell. Then you always need to make sure it fits your needs, both now and later on in life.

Spending time on the house early on makes it easier later on.

Whilst you’re building the house it can seem a struggle and rain can still come in and set you back.  Don’t be discouraged and don’t opt for the quick fix.  

Our first house was part of a new housing estate in Preston.  The builders threw the houses up quickly and it wasn’t long before ourselves, and our neighbours, were noticing massive cracks in the walls and an incredible number of small details that had been missed.  These houses were not built with care and won’t last without a lot of investment.

A house which is quickly assembled is also one that can be quickly destroyed.  One that is built carefully, with the right tools will stand the tests of time.