This topic crops up a lot, so I thought I’d pen some thoughts.  

One question asked of my wife and I, in Church circles, tends to be: “Mark/Anna, I have a course of action to decide on, but don’t know what to do.”

A few thoughts.  Wimber would describe disciples as 

‘People who have a personal relationship with Christ, a relationship of trust and dependence, of giving oneself fully to God.’

So as a Christian there is a relationship to work on here, that of a disciple, with the characteristics above. 

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Next step, ask God. God will give you wisdom to know how to respond to any situation.  The problem is if you ask God what he wants you to do in a difficult situation, you need to be willing to hear his answer. Because James says this in verses 6-8:

James 1:6-8 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 Those who doubt should not think they will receive anything from the Lord; 8 they are double-minded and unstable in all they do. 

You ask God, “What do you want me to do?”  And then you have to wholeheartedly be willing to listen to what he says.

Maturity, as a disciple, involves an active obedient prayer life, but not just talking at God, but listening and putting into action his response.  

Otherwise why pray?